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感谢@forfeard寻找资源~~既然有资源来就来翻译一下吧。
Begining Domestic Discipline ：Brought to you by leaning Domestic Discipline
家规入门：“家规学习”版权所有。
Welcome To The Leaning Domestic Discipline Beginner Packet
“ 家规学习 ” 新手指南卷首语
You’re probably feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and even a little bit scared. But, even with those uneasy feelings dancing in your heart, you’re also probably feeling a lot of excitement and anticipation. Domestic discipline has the potential to positively impact your relationship and domestic discipline has the potential to positively impact your home. Domestic discipline also has the potential to bring an elevated level of joy and happiness in your life and we’re sure you cannot wait to get started.
Does all of that closely reflect the way you’re feeling about domestic discipline? If so, you’re certainly not alone. You and so many others feel that way about this lifestyle.
Learning Domestic Discipline believes that this lifestyle can do all of those things for your relationship and home, and all it takes is one little commitment. Well, who are we kidding? All it takes is one HUGE commitment. Don’t worry – Learning Domestic Discipline is here to help you and your partner through it all.
Our names are Clint and Chelsea and we founded Learning Domestic Discipline in 2011 after practicing domestic discipline for many years in our own marriage. Yet shortly after we began domestic discipline, we realized that there were no instructional/advice domestic discipline blogs or websites anywhere on the web. Before long, our blogs branched into our website, www.learningdd.com, which is an ever-changing and expanding site.
We designed this packet for several reasons. The first reason being that we wanted an easy go-to resource for people who are contemplating the lifestyle, or for those who are just starting out. The second reason is because we know that, sometimes, on our new blog it can be hard to find information solely for beginners since the information is intermixed with other topics. Third, this is a packet that we wish we had when we were beginning domestic discipline!
This packet contains an abundance of information designed and written for those just starting out with the domestic discipline lifestyle. It starts with defining domestic discipline, and it continues to walk you right through all the information you will need to begin practicing domestic discipline in your own relationship.
This packet also contains tips on how to discuss the idea of domestic discipline with your partner, the emotions each partner will experience as they get started with the lifestyle, recommendations on how to safely administer punishments, and so much more.
We hope that you find this information useful and we hope that it provides a good launching pad, or starting point, for beginning your domestic discipline relationship.
We’re thankful that you have downloaded this packet, but more importantly, we are happy that you are considering incorporating domestic discipline as a part of your relationship.
So, without further ado, let’s get started!
Welcome!
-Clint & Chelsea
听到“家规”时，你可能会感到焦虑、不知所措、甚至还会有一点害怕。但是，尽管你心中会升腾起这些不安的情绪，你仍然可能对此感到些许兴奋和期待。家规对改善你的人际关系和家庭有着潜在的积极影响，同时家规还可以默默地给你的人生带来更高层次的快乐和幸福感，我们知道你一定迫不及待的想要开始了。
刚刚说的这些有没有更清晰地描绘出你所感受到的家规的作用？如果有，那么你绝不孤单。你和其他许多人都感受到了这种生活方式的作用。
“家规学习”（后面我们知道，家规学习是一个网站的名字，或者说算是机构的名字）坚信这种生活方式能够在你的人际交往和家庭关系上完成上面说到的这些好处，而且这种生活方式操作起来是非常轻松的。好啦，我们在开玩笑啦。完成家规是一项艰巨的任务。不过无须担心——我们能够帮助你和你的伴侣通过这一切。
我们是克林特和切尔西。我们在自己的婚姻生活中一直践行着基督家规，直到2011年，我们建立了“家规学习”。之所以会建立“家规学习”是因为，我们实践了不久的一段时间后发现，在网络上没有关于这件事的任何能够指引或者建议的博客或者网站。在建立“家规学习”之前，我们的博客扩展成了一个不断更新和壮大的网站，www.learningdd.com。
我们处于以下原因发布了此指南：一、我们希望为那些正在考虑这种生活方式或者还在门外徘徊的人提供寻找资源的便利。二、我们知道，很多时候，我们的新博客很难找到专门针对初学者的信息，有时是当这里面已经混在了很多其他的主题时。三、我们作为初学者时特别希望有这样一份指南可以指导我们。
指南中我们发布了大量的针对那些没有实践过的人儿设计的信息。从家规的定义开始，继而带领你进入真正的家规世界，这里有你在自己的关系中开始实践所需要的一切。
指南中包括这样几个主题：如何跟伴侣沟通、不同的伴侣在实践过程中可能出现的情绪、安全地惩罚建议等等。
我们希望你找到的信息是有用的，同时也希望这里能提供给你一个好的平台或起点，可以让你进入这个世界。
我们很感谢您下载这份指南，不过更重要的是，我们很高兴你愿意将家规的生活方式带入到你现实的关系中。
那么，无需大费周章了，从这里开始吧。
欢迎来到我们的世界。
克林特和切尔西此致同好。
Introduction（简介）
What is Domestic Discipline?（什么是家规）
Getting Your Partner on Board（让你的伴侣和你一起实行）
Head of the Household Emotions（主上大人的情绪（主导者的情绪））
Submissive Partner Emotions（顺从者的情绪（从属者的情绪））
Lecturing（课程）
Removing Privileges（取消特权）
Corner Time（面壁时间）
Bedroom Time（卧室时间）
Reinforcement（强化）
The First Spanking（首次打屁股）
Beginner Spankings（入门打屁股）
Spanking Implements（打屁股机制建立成功）
Spanking Positions（挨打的位置）
Over or Under the Clothes（穿不穿衣服）
Frequently Asked Questions（常见问题）
Ready to Get Started?（准备好开始了吗？）
If you look on 10 different domestic discipline websites that attempt to define this lifestyle, youll likely find 10 different definitions as to what exactly domestic discipline is. Its a difficult concept to define. Domestic discipline means something different to each individual couple that practices it. Once you establish domestic discipline in your own relationship, you’ll have your own personal definition of it as well. It’s unique to all of us.
Having said that, a number of defining characteristics of a domestic discipline relationship are fairly universal to each domestic discipline relationship. The following definition includes those universal characteristics, and each of those characteristics is elaborated on below the definition.
We at Learning Domestic Discipline define domestic discipline as follows:
Domestic discipline is the practice between two consenting life partners in which the head of the household (HoH) takes the necessary measures to achieve a healthy relationship dynamic; the necessary measures to create a healthy home environment; and the necessary measures to protect all members of the family from dangerous or detrimental outcomes by punishing the contributing, and thus unwanted, behaviors for the greater good of the entire family. In addition to punishing the unwanted behaviors, the head of the household is responsible for reinforcing positive behaviors for the greater good of the entire family. The head of the household is ALWAYS to conduct themselves in a very safe, loving, healthy, controlled, and composed manner.
There is a lot of information included within that definition, as you can see. In fact, just so were perfectly clear, let’s break down this definition and go into even further detail.
A) Domestic Discipline is the practice between two consenting life partners… – Domestic discipline is generally practiced among married couples. However, the term "life partners" is used in our definition because we feel domestic discipline can be practiced between any two partners who know theyll spend the rest of their lives together. That could mean they’re married, or engaged, or even partners living together for numerous years. And, of course, this practice and lifestyle absolutely MUST be consensual between both partners. We cannot stress that point enough.
B) …the head of the household (HoH) takes the necessary measures to achieve a healthy relationship dynamic; the necessary measures to create a healthy home environment; and the necessary measures to protect all members of the family from dangerous or detrimental outcomes by punishing the contributing, and thus unwanted, behaviors for the greater good of the entire family. – It is the “job" of the head of the household to protect their family from harm, even if that means protecting them from themselves. The HoH must protect the family not only in the physical sense, but in the emotional, spiritual, and financial senses as well. It is the duty of the head of the household to keep the family on the right track toward a safe, stable, constructive, and happy future. The HoH is the leader. The HoH sets the example for the rest of the family. In a domestic discipline relationship, this means the HoH punishes dangerous or detrimental behaviors in order to achieve those things. This is the essence of what domestic discipline is all about.
C) In addition to punishing the unwanted behaviors, the head of the household is responsible for reinforcing positive behaviors for the greater good of the entire family. – Often forgotten within domestic discipline is the need to reward the positive behaviors as well. This responsibility again falls directly on the shoulders of the head of the household. Reinforcing positive behaviors will increase the likelihood of those behaviors repeating, which is always a good thing in any situation.
D) The head of the household is ALWAYS to conduct themselves in a very safe, loving, healthy, controlled, and composed manner. – Any aspect of domestic discipline is NEVER to be carried out when the head of the household is angry or upset. Never. Yes, the dangerous or detrimental behaviors can be upsetting, but the head of the household must ALWAYS punish while composed, calm, and in complete control of their emotions and actions. This practice is always to be done in a loving manner, and never in an uncontrolled manner.
Domestic discipline isnt an easy thing to start in any relationship. However, once a couple begins practicing domestic discipline and remains consistent with it for several months, often times they can’t imagine their lives without it.
When looking back at that definition, the term “domestic discipline” makes a lot of sense and is very fitting for describing this dynamic in a relationship. This lifestyle is “domestic” in the sense that its practiced between two committed consenting life partners, and it obviously contains “discipline” given the punishment/consequence aspect of the lifestyle. Put the twoterms together and there you have it – “domestic discipline.”
如果你浏览过10个不同的家规网站，然后试图来定义这种生活方式，那么你可能会得出10种不同的结论来描述家规到底是什么。家规是一个很难定义的概念。在执行家规的实践过程中，对于不同的夫妇来说它的意味是不同的。一旦你在自己的婚姻中建立起这样的关系，你会发现，你们夫夫妇二人会对家规有你们自己独特的见解。这对于每个人来说都是因人而异的。
这里，不得不说，大量家规关
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系的定义特征是通用的。下面要说的定义包括了那些通用特征，并且接下来将会阐述这些定义。
我们在“家规学习”中是定义的家规概念如下：
家规需要两个自愿结为人生伴侣的人共同练习，其中作为户主的一方需通过采取一些必要的措施来掌控这段家庭关系的动态；采取必要措施可以创建健康的家庭氛围；
One of the hardest aspects of domestic discipline is physically starting with it. Approaching your partner with an extremely controversial and life changing idea like domestic discipline can be rather difficult, particularly when BOTH of you have to accept and consent to living with this dynamic in your relationship.Outlined below are three things we recommend considering before you approach your partner with the idea of bringing domestic discipline into your relationship. Obviously this isnt a fool-proof "plan" but regardless, here are our recommendations.
1. Make sure you want this. The first thing we recommend is making sure domestic discipline is something you want in your relationship. Domestic discipline isnt something that can be turned off and on at will. Don’t get the wrong idea – domestic discipline is absolutely something that can be (and should be) stopped at any time if it isn’t working for your relationship, but it isn’t something we recommend regularly stopping and starting. Consistency is important and needs to be present at all times in order for domestic discipline to be effective. Both partners need to be 100% on board with the idea of domestic discipline, and that starts with you being 100% on board before approaching your partner with this concept. Research domestic discipline first. Ask questions you have about this lifestyle to someone who already practices it. Make sure this is a lifestyle that you truly want to adopt for your relationship.
2. Be prepared for the "common hesitations" ahead of time. The second step we recommend is to anticipate how your partner may react so youre prepared for it. Very few individuals are going to say, “Wow! Sounds great! Let’s try it!" particularly if theyve never heard of it before. Be prepared for a lot of questions and some hesitation from your partner. The following list outlines a number of common feelings some have regarding their hesitations with incorporating domestic discipline into their relationship. Hopefully this outline of feelings will help you to understand your partner’s perspective when first hearing about the idea of domestic discipline.
Head of the Household Hesitations:
They dont want to hurt their partner. This is extremely common, and actually a good thing (after all, who really wants to be in a relationship with someone who enjoys hurting them?) However, it’s important to explain to the HoH that there are different kinds ofhurt, and the intentions behind the "hurt" matters most. For example – punishment is physical pain (in some situations, such as spanking) done lovingly (that’s the key word) with intent to correct. Theres also physical pain that is not done lovingly or with intent to correct (example – punching someone in the face), and emotional pain (example – saying rude things). Both of those are NOT what domestic discipline is all about, or what it stands for. Domestic discipline is practiced with loving intent. Its important that your partner understands that.
They dont want to see their partner cry. This basically goes hand-in-hand with the above hesitation.
They dont want to be a parent to their partner. A lot of HoHs feel that by creating rules/setting boundaries (and then using discipline to enforce those rules if/when theyre broken) they will lose their partner and gain a child. This is just one of those "you have to try it to experience the dynamic" sort of things. We’ve never heard any couple in a domestic discipline relationship say that it felt like a parent/child dynamic. That isn’t to say EVERY couple feels that way – we’ve just never heard anyone say that they feel that way. Its a different dynamic that involves adult emotions and adult situations that has to be experienced to truly understand.
They want an independent partner. Being disciplined doesnt mean one isn’t strong, independent, or capable of making decisions for themselves. It simply means that if any decision is a poorly made one, they have help in fixing it before it becomes an issue in the relationship/family.
Submissive Partner Hesitations:
They dont want to be treated like a child. This goes hand-in-hand with one of the common hesitations HoHs face when first hearing about domestic discipline, which is that they dont want to feel like they are parenting their partner. The explanation for this hesitation is the same – its just an experience one has to try to fully understand the dynamic. We could try to explain it, but it probably wouldnt make a lot of sense. It’s something that has to be felt, not read in a packet.
Theyre afraid it will hurt (the spanking aspect). Well, it does hurt. We’re not going to lie about that. However the pain is temporary, and what the relationship and home both gain from the loving correction of negative behaviors is well worth it.
3. Understand the benefits. After youve studied up on all the hesitations your partner might have about domestic discipline, or what fears he/she may have about it, its important that you understand the benefits of living the lifestyle and explain these to your partner. There are a lot we could list, but we’ll outline the most important benefits to living with domestic discipline a part of your relationship.
整个指南是很详细的。
可以说是事无巨细地为同好们考虑了方方面面。其中最最最能体现作者的关怀的，就是如何把伴侣引入这个世界～只可惜，对于中国人来说，那样的说话模板，好像并不实用。
暗夜是有贵气的，比起很多同好论坛来，甚至可以说暗夜是唯一有贵气的。
看了这个以后，嗯～还没看完～我觉得，这个是有关怀的，那是一种是比贵气更可贵也更稀缺更难得的品质。
学好语文就可以了～
不，也不是～差不多就是中文好就够用了～反正我的话，就是初中英语的水平。哈哈
此情最近好吗~
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